If you just nodded at least once, you’re in good company with billions of people!
Being burdened by stress, worry or lack of satisfaction may be common. But it’s not natural. Deep down, you know that.
When you’re stressed, worried, angry or dissatisfied, you feel like something is off; unnatural.
Why? Because you have an infinite source of lasting peace and happiness within you that is natural, that you can access at any time.
When you anchor yourself in that source, the mental “noise” goes away.
You live free of worry and stress, with unshakable fulfilment that doesn’t depend on events, outcomes or circumstances.
Meaning infuses everything you do.
Don’t worry. It’s much easier and faster than you think.
It would be very presumptuous of me to tell you what the meaning of your life should be to you! I think's a personal decision.
I believe the Meaning of Life is whatever makes you feel most fulfilled.
That’s not exactly going out on a limb. But here’s what’s important:
Think about fulfillment. It can result from pursuing a purpose. But fulfillment is not a result. It’s an emotion -- something you feel.
Meaning is infused in fulfillment, as well as happiness, serenity, love and other warmhearted emotions.
Whether the Meaning of Life to you is helping others, having loving relationships, making a fortune or something else, what you’re seeking is not the objective itself. It’s the emotional reward.
I believe we need to be fully engaged in the world – it needs our help!
But no purpose, achievement, relationship or anything else external will get you off the proverbial emotional rollercoaster.
How do I know? Because it has never happened. Not to anyone. Ever.
Think of the world’s richest and most powerful people in the world: Presidents, prime ministers, CEOs, celebrities, billionaire investors.
They set and met ultra-ambitious goals.
But do they look more fulfilled, happy or peaceful than half the people you know?
Lasting peace and happiness, and unshakable fulfilment couldn’t be more accessible or attainable.
You don’t have to change anything you do in life.
You just have to know where and how to look.
Don’t believe you need an elaborate path with decades of meditation, Mindfulness or yoga to experience lasting peace and happiness, unshakable fulfillment and spiritual awakening.
There's a simple, time-tested way to bypass that. No, it’s not talk therapy! it’s a modern adaptation of an ancient approach that’s been working for 5,000 years.
Reverse Mindfulness for Lasting Happiness ("Reverse Mindfulness") is a modern adaptation of ancient yogic teachings that are resurfacing due to their simplicity, minimal time commitment and amazingly fast results.
You can do it anytime, in any situation, without anyone knowing.
It immediately short-circuits stress and anxiety.
In a small fraction of the time required by most forms of mindfulness, meditation and yoga, you’ll experience:
Mindfulness and Reverse Mindfulness:
Two sides of the same coin
Mindfulness and Reverse Mindfulness share ancient Indian roots.
They both draw their effectiveness from the power of attention.
They recognize awareness, not the mind, as our essential self and the source of lasting peace and happiness.
They just send our attention in “opposite directions” -- onto whatever we’re aware of vs. what is aware of it.
Most of us spend 100% of our time focusing on we’re aware of: Sights, sounds, thoughts, emotions, etc.
Mindfulness does that with greater intensity and alertness. Most forms of meditation and yoga also focus on specific things: our breath, energy, memories, images, mantras, etc.
The simple alternative is reversing your attention.
Being mindful of what’s being mindful. Paying attention to what’s paying attention. Being aware of what is aware, of awareness itself.
If that sounds difficult, rest assured, it’s practically effortless. Even Mindful magazine describes Mindfulness as "easier said than done."
There are different ways to practice Reverse Mindfulness. Basic knowledge and insights greatly enhance its power.
But its core is reversing your attention onto what is inherently peaceful and happy within you. If you could do that, why would you want to focus on anything else?
You don't even need to close your eyes.
Mindfulness can be effective at reducing what we want LESS of, like stress, anxiety and distraction in the near-term.
Reverse Mindfulness is more about rapidly gaining what we want MORE of, like serenity, happiness and feeling “complete.”
But it also dissolves stress and anxiety. And it's much easier than Mindfulness.
In the West, awareness is typically overlooked and dismissed as a function.
In many Eastern traditions, including mindfulness, meditation and yoga, it's a totally different story: Awareness is rightly recognized as our true nature; the peaceful, loving, joyful essence of who we are.
But here’s the thing: There's no exotic awareness that’s only accessible to gurus, mystics and yogis.
It’s the same “ordinary” awareness with which we wash the dishes, walk the dog, or recognize what we think and feel. It’s just a matter of how deeply we experience it.
You don’t need to sit in the dark and concentrate hard, trying to attain an elusive state of peace, fulfillment and happiness.
Just learn to pay direct attention to this “ordinary” awareness – eyes open, in any situation.
When you master and combine this practice with simple teachings, you’ll quickly discover that peace, fulfillment and happiness aren't elusive. They're the essence of who you are.
If that sounds too simple, you can try it the hard way. There are thousands of hard ways. Believe me, I know. But you won't find an approach that's more logical than this one...
The logic behind Reverse Mindfulness for Lasting Happiness is obvious: If you know the source of lasting peace and happiness, then pay some attention to it, rather than everything EXCEPT it 100% of the time!
From ages 12-23, I lived a very challenging, illness-ridden life linked to an undiagnosed genetic condition.
In 1988, a year after graduating from Harvard, my resistance collapsed and I fell into an extreme depression.
Fortunately, it led me to find very successful treatment. I finally felt “normal.”
But normal seemed to mean riding an emotional rollercoaster driven by events and circumstances with almost everyone else.
So, alongside a demanding career in communications and eventual family life, I explored how something better than normal – lasting happiness – is pursued worldwide with approaches such as Mindfulness, meditation, yoga, positive psychology, ancient spiritual teachings and more. It was a fun but unremarkable hobby for 20 years. Then...
I was driving home as usual when the world seemed to blossom into vivid colors. Even lampposts and road signs seemed vibrant and alive. Something had shifted; I wasn't sure what.
Within 48 hours, I realized that a lifelong, disruptive stress condition in my heart had vanished, never to return.
Even more bizarre, when I focused on an object, I felt a pressing sensation between my eyebrows and an unearthly sense of peace and “oneness” with the space around it.
The “eyebrow center” is the location of the “third spiritual eye” in some Eastern traditions. Courtesy of Google, I soon learned that it's associated with deeper states of consciousness, wisdom, intuition and more.
Fast forward to 2019. I had been teaching a popular wellness and spirituality workshop for a few years.
I couldn’t imagine feeling any better. (I was soon pleasantly surprised.) But for my clients, I still didn’t have a magic bullet for lasting happiness.
To me, it was the magic bullet. But I knew it wouldn't be obvious to everyone. Most people who “got it” had tried almost everything else, as I had.
I call the general approach “reversing attention.” To simplify it for a mainstream Western audience, I spent over a year studying different approaches to reversing attention.
With much outside input, l created a condensed program that is more experiential, visual and simple – more from the heart than the head – than the original. Today, it's called Reverse Mindfulness for Lasting Happiness.
I believe reversing attention will eventually become more prevalent than mindfulness. It's easier, faster, 100% portable, involves no eyes-closed meditation (mindfulness programs often do) and provides what most of us want above all: lasting peace and happiness, and fulfilment that can't be shaken by events and circumstances.
For now, it’s working absolute wonders for people who try it.
Get the Life You Deserve!
All you need is a few specific skills and some basic knowledge and insights to experience to the peaceful, joyful essence of who you are every day. That’s what I’ll help you do as an individual coach and counselor, or a speaker at your company or organization.
I'd be delighted to give you a free 30-minute, no-obligation introduction to Reverse Mindfulness for Lasting Happiness. I promise you'll enjoy it. I teach serious, life-altering material in a down-to-earth, lighthearted way.
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