“What’s the Meaning of Life?”
I would have been the wrong person to ask one August morning in 1988. Just over a year after graduating from Harvard, I was sitting on the George Washington Bridge connecting New York and New Jersey, trying to decide whether to jump off. To me, life had no meaning and I had no hope. I stared down at the distant Hudson River in a state of extreme depression for an agonizing 20 minutes.
Ultimately, I decided to spare my own life to spare my family terrible grief.
I didn’t learn until 2016 (better late than never) that I have an easily treatable genetic condition which has its own symptoms and is linked to depression, anxiety, and ADHD. I'd been struggling with all of them since age 12. By age 23, I was toast.
MeaningOfLife.com has my full story, but I had a partial recovery that year with a new approach. When I started to feel better, I found enthusiasm for my job, started going out at night, caught up with old friends. Things started to FEEL meaningful in a new way. Even bantering with a friendly deli owner each morning seemed to matter.
Ask me today "What's the Meaning of Life?" today and I'll tell you "It's matter of opinion," and "It depends on how you look at it."
In person, that response often makes people chuckle and roll their eyes, thinking it's just a playful way to evade the age-old question. That makes me chuckle, too.
But it's actually a deep answer. Yes, "It's a matter of opinion" reflects my very common belief that each of us needs to answer the question for ourselves, But "It depends on how you look at it" speaks to the clarity of your lens on life, which is highly influenced by your state of emotional well-being.
When I was on the bridge, it was no coincidence that I saw life as meaningless and was also suicidally depressed. I couldn't feel anything. I was so numb that I couldn't even cry.
As things improved over time,I learned that MEANING ISN'T JUST AN IDEAL, SOMETHING TO DO, AN OVERALL PURPOSE YOU DEFINE FOR YOURSELF... MEANING IS ALSO SOMETHING YOU FEEL.
Meaning is inside all of what I call "warmhearted emotions." There’s no such thing as “meaningless love,” or meaningless kindness, compassion, fulfillment, etc.
So the better your emotional well-being is, the more meaning you'll feel and see, and vice-versa.
If you’re looking through a lens clouded with worry, stress and resentment, you’ll see a very different world than if your lens is happiness, fulfillment and love. You may devote your life to very different things.
I’ll always be a work in progress. But suffice it to say that 30 years since my trip to bridge, I live in a state of peace, contentment and happiness that I believe most people never experience. Not because it needs to be hard, or because you need to battle a serious undiagnosed health problem to learn what’s necessary. I’ve done that research for you.
You need the right information in plain English. You need practical tools to manage your thoughts and emotions, and change your mindset in the moment from negative to positive. You need a few secrets to experience inner peace that’s always available to enrich quiet moments, alone or with others — and help you take the chaos of daily life in stride. And you need to keep it simple.
I’m an outsider in the wellness industry, which I'm trilled by, because I get to have a clear conscience.
If you look at the stats, you can't possibly conclude anything other than that THE WELLNESS INDUSTRY HAS BEEN A SPECTACULAR FAILURE WHEN IT COMES TO EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING!
Everyone wants to be happy. In my lifetime, hundreds of billions of dollars have been forked over to wellness professionals by people like you and me. But AMERICANS ARE GETTING LESS HAPPY! HAPPINESS IN AMERICA PEAKED IN THE 1990S! Anxiety levels have skyrocketed. The suicide rate has been climbing since 1999. More people — a record number — are dying from drug overdoses than gun violence.
Turn on the national news. Is there ANYTHING you see that looks WELL?
How about the tone of discourse on social media?
Most of it goes back to the fact that most people don’t know how to handle their thoughts and emotions.
It’s not their fault. Our minds have a genetically wired negative bias. Emotional well-being isn't taught at home or at school or in the workplace, and institutions that try to nourish the soul are collectively failing, too.
FORTUNATELY, the failures are COLLECTIVE. There are brilliant people (including my doctor) doing great things with very helpful approaches in various wings of wellness for emotional well-being.
I’ve benefited from that greatness because for 30 years I had to constantly search for well-being solutions to compensate for what my body couldn’t do — produce enough neurotransmitters — while simultaneously meeting the demands of a high-pressure career and raising two delightful, quirky kids who never cease to amuse or amaze me.
I dove into roughly two dozen established approaches to emotional well-being. Some of them helped, but none made a big difference. And I found all of them – ESPECIALLY TALK THERAPY - to be too expensive, too time-consuming, too gradual, too complex, or all of the above.
Here’s how I created something valuable for you: I started to improvise. I blended powerful aspects of visualization, mindfulness, psychology, meditation, cognitive behavioral therapy, visual learning and positive reminiscence (memory) therapy, with Eastern and Western spiritual teachings, and what behavioral biology reveals about our minds and instincts.
I ultimately developed an integrated system Tame Your Mind, Love Your Life, that is far more powerful than any single approach. It has since been reviewed by doctors, wellness experts, our Advisory Board members and others.
The system is the worst nightmare of your negative emotions. You can change your mindset in the moment from negative to positive. It can help you access positive emotions like happiness and love as second nature with stunning simplicity. It can help you feel inner peace and fulfillment anywhere by doing nothing more than looking around. (Yes, believe it.) And much more.
Some of it works right away. Some of it takes a little practice, but I emphasize “a little.”
THE WORKSHOP BREAKS ALL THE RULES of the wellness industry. Here’s how and why its different.
— Complexity is not the answer to taming your mind and loving your life. It’s the obstacle. Rather than multiple expensive visits to therapists, coaches, counselors, teachers, etc., our Tame Your Mind, Love Your Life Workshop is taught in one 2-hour session – online or in-person, with groups or individuals. Afterward, I’ll always take your calls and emails to answer questions.
— The workshop is inexpensive and money-backed guaranteed. Ever go to a money-back guaranteed therapy appointment? I wish I had.
— The system combines some of the world’s most effective healing practices. Certified practitioners can only teach you what they're certified to teach. They’re confined to a narrow band of a broad universe of effective healing options.
— The system doesn't try to "fix what's bad" from the past that produces negative emotions. It gives you tools to quiet negative emotions whenever they arise.
— The Workshop is highly visual, because people remember images even readily than words. (There are plenty of words, too!)
— The Workshop teaches life-changing material, but it’s also a lot of fun. I do standup comedy as a hobby. Being boring is not an option. Ever have fun at therapy? What about couples therapy? 😊
— The workshop offers greater value for much less money than what most therapists, coaches or counselors charge for two hours. Their prices can be outlandish.
My friend, no matter what has happened to you or what your problems are, you deserve the best in life. Your happiest years lie ahead if you master your thoughts and emotions. With this simple system, maybe combined with anything else you’re doing that's working, it’s not so hard.
Visit for https://www.meaningoflife.com/ more information and to sign up for the workshop. What are you waiting for? You have so much to gain, and only two hours of binge watching to lose!
Whatever you do, DON'T EVER, EVER, EVER SETTLE FOR LESS!
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